My husband goes ahead and decides on a purchase of a home without hesitation. I am more of a cautious type, and want to make sure we can live comfortably after retirement. What should I do? (Female in her 60s)
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It’s natural to have different opinions and personalities among husbands and wives. Afterall, we are individual human beings. That is the reason why husband and wife must bring their kokoro together as one, based on the teachings of Kami. In doing so, always communicate your own feelings to the other. And at the same time, have the heart to listen to the other’s feelings. The harmonious family that becomes the foundation of our happiness begins from the togetherness of the couple.
Shinji
Bring the teachings of Kami into the family.
Family members must understand their individual parameters and roles, and spend each and everyday speaking their thoughts.
Realize that there will be no disaster/misfortune to those who understand their parameter and their timing.
Take this purchase of a new home as an opportunity to enjoy discussing more about your future together. Through these discussions, you will find how you both want to live to become happy and the right things that fit your parameters.
In cases like this, when you already have a particular issue to make decisions about, use all the numbers and information and discuss each issue one by one. It will help you provide with a better decision with a cool-head.
Moving forward with conflicting thoughts about something will not help you spend your twilight years without regret. We recommend that you face each other, and talk it out until you both feel comfortable.