I was enjoying my work in sales and found it rewarding, but I started to feel bad about my coworker’s complaints, so I talked to my boss about it. I was transferred to another branch, but now my co-workers there are mean to me. When I told my friend, she invited me to come to her company. However, it’s administrative work, so I’m not sure if I should change jobs. (Female in her 50s)
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When relationships with people don’t go well, we tend to think that the other person is the cause. At times like these, it is important to realize that you too have factors that bring out those negative aspects. Human relationships are an inseparable part of work. Unless you solve the root cause of problems that occur one after another, you’ll likely end up having similar problems over and over again, no matter how much you change your workplace.
Let’s take this opportunity to reflect on our own perceptions, feelings, and personality tendencies based on Kami’s teachings. If you notice any corrections, work on them with kigan.
Strive to live your life learning the teachings and gaining awareness from the teachings.
Encounters with people will spread and deepen; your life will be an enjoyable one (era) filled with dreams.
Don’t see work as a duty/occupation; understand it as an encounter to foster your kokoro to give back.
The duty/occupation will be put to utilize the more the encounter with people are made the best of.
What is important in work is the kokoro of hōshi—which is the attitude to do your best to respond to what is required of you. This applies not only to work but also to people. It’s about taking the other person’s thoughts into account and interacting with them in a way that helps them achieve harmony. For example, if a co-worker complains to you about something, listen carefully to what they have to say, make suggestions that will make the other person feel better, or work together with them to come up with a solution. Don’t get overwhelmed by someone’s harsh words or actions, but instead actively engage in conversation. And clear up misunderstandings, and apologize if you were at fault. In this way, you will face each other with sincerity so that your relationships will deepen one by one.
The basis of interpersonal relationships is the family. First, let’s review whether you are fulfilling your duties and positions at home. By being conscious of harmony with your family and making adjustments, your interpersonal relationships at work will naturally become smoother. By working together with your co-workers and superiors, you can demonstrate your strengths even more and experience the purpose and joy of life.