I can’t seem to feel positive about anything, and I lack the energy to keep going. I feel hopeless when I think about how I’ve never worked in my life, and am likely to go through life remaining single. I don’t think even my family understands how I feel. (Woman in her 40s)
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At birth, everyone receives a unique gift from Kami—unmei, representing their own inherent strengths and the power to contribute to society. By realizing that potential, one becomes sought after and trusted by others, leading to a life filled with a true sense of purpose.
The strength of unmei can only be truly harnessed through our connections with others. Start by actively engaging with your family—the very foundation of happiness. Do not close yourself off; instead, take the initiative to reach out and speak to them. Expressing gratitude—such as saying “thank you” for their help with household chores—which is a crucial first step. Furthermore, showing concern for your family and supporting them in whatever ways you can will lead to significant personal progress. Being appreciated and bringing joy to others allows you to experience true happiness and a sense of purpose in life. This fosters a renewed sense of vitality and awakens a powerful inner drive to live fully.
At the same time, you should try opening up to your parents about the painful feelings you are harboring. Even within a family, your true feelings won’t get across unless you put them into words. Try being honest with them—for instance, by saying, “I couldn’t talk about it because I thought you wouldn’t understand.” Simply having your feelings acknowledged can bring a sense of relief and will surely help lift your spirits.
Shinji
All human beings who are born with a soul in the hands of Kami, are made to walk through their life filled with joy and happiness led by the strength of unmei.
The environment to hone and draw out that strength (your presence) is your family.
Understand well about your role and your position in the family, and never forget to call out on your family with smile and joy, and never neglect your feelings to convey your thoughts to them.
In a harmonious family environment, your unmei is honed and polished.
True connection with others begins when you open up your heart. As you deepen your bonds with your family, you will find yourself able to interact pleasantly with anyone—whether it is an encounter while shopping or an interaction with friends and acquaintances. When you engage with others by showing consideration and offering help in whatever ways you can, your connections will deepen and expand. Naturally, this paves the way to finding a workplace that suits you and meeting a romantic partner with whom you share a genuine emotional bond.