(YF from Shizuoka Prefecture/40s/Female/Organization Staff)
The atmosphere of our family for the past few years was depressed and everything went against us. My son’s school grades did not improve although he failed the entrance exam at the university and was studying for the next chance, and my daughter who was in middle school worried about human relationships at the club. Moreover, I was really hectic since I was transferred at work. My husband was gentle and accepted me who felt irritated. However, his attitude made me feel more irritated. When I reflected, I used awful words like “I do my best so much in this way!”
Realization I Got One After Another
What I sought was the teachings after I lost the axis of my kokoro. For my son, the thought of me as a parent was to aim to pass the higher-ranked university since we let him go to a preparatory school for university entrance exam. However, when I heard from my son that “Why do you want me to go to such a higher-ranked university?”, I realized I pushed him into a corner. It was the first realization I learned from the teachings.
“I want to be seen a mother whose son goes to a high-ranked university.” “I want my daughter to be more active than any other.” “I want to be recognized at work.” Everything was my real intention which was at the bottom of my heart and I finally found through the teachings. My kokoro was full of greed.
What I Could Find from the Figure of My Husband
One day, I was depressed about my relationship with my boss and I confided to my husband. At that moment, my pain flowed away smoothly. I experienced this as just a family where the soul feels at ease which Kami taught us. At the same time, I came to find the direction I aim for “I need to make such a family from now on.”
I decided to listen the thought of my husband as he did for me. When I heard from my daughter that she wanted to quit the club, my kokoro moved to make her continue the club. After a pause, I asked him about her. Then, he replied me that “The best way is what our daughter could keep her smile.” What? However, his opinion was correct. We need to listen what she felt about. I never forget at that moment since I was really moved that he really knew what was important. The thought of respect from the bottom of my heart was brought about, and I also felt he was a sincerely reliable person not only calm and gentle.
Miraculous Changes Happened Not Only to Me but to Our Children
After my kokoro became calm, our children also changed miraculously. My son studied hard and passed the entrance exam of the university. I was really relieved since he made friends and went to the university happily although there was not where he aimed for from the beginning. My daughter also studied hard for the entrance exam for high school and she is absorbed in the club every day. I am also thankful that I got a high evaluation at work.
Now, I feel a family where the soul feel at ease brings not only the strength for recovery but the strength to feel that “I want to do my best more!” Thanks to them, I feel things go well, and became the food for my kokoro even though things did not go well…. I feel this is a realization that I could live my life.
My family says about me that “You are less angry than before.” “You changed greatly.” I experience such happiness and feel that Kami talk to me to realize my shortcomings. The reason why I could accept my shortcomings naturally, it was not the words from person but that from kami. From now on, I never keep my kokoro away from Kami, and want to live my life as I grew my kokoko even though it is a step or a half of step, or inching forward.
Heeding the Shinji to Understand the Reasons for the Joys Experienced
Shinji is the universal principle (truth), and can also be the guidance of life that foresees the future. Please feel the wonders of a life that flows exactly in a way the Shinji tells us when you live with the teachings of Kami.
Shinji
The only essence to attain a happy life without getting lost the kokoro is
–To put the teachings into the family.‐
The kokoro of love broadens and each family member supports each kokoro and attain the family (environment) with harmony.
If we could make a family where kokoro feel at ease, each family could see a kokoro(figure) as it should be and the happiness could be experienced through the words or attitude.
There is a happiness to live a life.