(MK from Tochigi Prefecture/Female/70s/Cleaning Business)
Even though I have been working hard for my husband for many years, my husband treats me like a “kikanbo-a bad kid”. It is true that I have a short temper and a strong personality. This is the reason why my husband’s kokoro turns to outside of the family. This realization drastically changed our lives.
A Dissatisfied Marriage
I told my husband, “You’ve lived your life the way you wanted; you will have no regrets.” What came back to me from him was; “Oh, I don’t care if I die anytime.” This cycle continued for 53 years as a couple.
My husband is such a free-spirited person. His hobby is touring, and he has bought many new bikes and goes out with friends all the time. For that reason, we have never traveled together as a family. My dissatisfaction grew, and my masculine personality became more and more pronounced. If my husband didn’t do what I asked right away, I would do it myself. Even if he does something for me, if it is not done my way, I would say, “That’s enough.” Even though I thought I was fully aware of the importance of husband and wife through studying Kami’s teachings, my kokoro did not listen.
My Feelings for My Husband Changed Mysteriously
One day, I saw my husband walking in the distance. As I looked at his back, I thought, “He has been doing his best for his family for a long time. Life is finite. There will come a time when I will have to say goodbye to my husband. And yet, what kind of lifestyle have I led myself into?” Why did I suddenly feel like this? Perhaps Kami recognized my desire to change and my thoughts that kept asking for help, and gave me a chance. Tears filled my eyes, and I decided to be involved with my husband once again with a kokoro of love.
Be On Good Terms with My Husband for the Sake of Our Children
Just a few months later, the atmosphere in our home changed completely. When my husband helps me with the housework, I would say, “Thank you. It was a great help to keep it so clean.” I no longer care about whether things are going the way I want them to. My husband often says things like, “I’ll go wash the dishes, so relax.” The true character of my husband was hidden by my rebelliousness. He has always been honest, kind, and enthusiastic about his work. My husband and I go out more often too.
“We don’t know how much longer we can live, but let’s live happily and enjoy the time together.” When I told this to my husband the other day, he said, “I’m too worried to leave you alone, so I’ll have to see you off… Then I’ll die right after you.” I was moved by his thoughts and words.
I was so glad I realized it at that time. My daughter, who was on a similar path, said things like, “I respect my husband. He works hard from early in the morning for the family.” As parents, the way we live our lives will be passed on to our children—for better or for worse. With that in mind, I will face my husband firmly and correctly.
Heeding the Shinji to Understand the Reasons for the Joys Experienced
Shinji is the universal principle (truth), and can also be the guidance of life that foresees the future. Please feel the wonders of a life that flows exactly in a way the Shinji tell us when you live with the teachings of Kami.
Shinji
Be a couple who cherish the finite journey of life as husband and wife supporting and complementing each other.
As the husband and wife get along and walk together as their unmei are in merge with each other, the kokoro of family members will anchor, the unmei of each family member will be honed, and the jittai will be elevated.
The family that prospers leaving good elements in their Kokoro no Michi exists here.