Question
I found out that my husband is having an affair. I want them to end the relationship, so I am thinking to talk to my husband’s parents about that.
(Female 40’s)
A
Having an affair is a serious matter that can break a trust between husband and wife. And it is natural that you wish your husband to end the relationship with the woman. However, talking to parents-in-law about that will not be the solution to the root of the problem. If you would like to start afresh as “husband and wife” with him, let’s remember your role in the family and think what you can do as a wife.
Human beings pile up worries, suffers, ambivalences; and then realize their own jittai, and their kokoro moves to make the most of the encounters.
It is time for everyone, to reflect on their own jittai and be a person, who lives with the principles, and make the most of each encounter.
Why did your husband’s feeling go for the other women…? How did he think about you as his wife…? It is time for you to reflect on yourself by standing in his shoes; remember your place and role in your family based on Kami’s teachings and think back the way you communicate with your husband as a wife each day. Kigan your feelings honestly; modesty will be gradually brought out and help you to have a kokoro to listen and talk with your husband honestly and accept the situation of the relationship with him. Talking to parents-in-law is at last to do. Talk to your husband first, and inform the result to both parents and ask them to watch over. This is the life that does not worry your parents. Likewise, use Kami’s teachings to face and solve the problem, and create a family in harmony.