Most of my parents and relatives are divorced. At benkyōkai, I often hear that people’s lives are similar to those of their parents and ancestors. Therefore, I worry that I will follow in the same footsteps and get divorced someday. Maybe I’m not the marrying type. (Female in her 30s)
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There is always a cause to the results you get. And certain things are passed down in each family. That is for sure. However, what we inherit is not the result of divorce, but the cause that leads to divorce.
For example, personality tendencies include being picky about people, having a strong ego and not accepting ideas that differ from one’s own, having a pessimistic personality, or always being depressed. If you deny or criticize others, or if you have something that people would distance themselves from you, it is natural that your marriage will not go well. As a result, it ends up in the form of divorce. But instead, if you modify the way you think and live your life, the results will naturally change.
This is exactly what Kami wants each person to realize, and the reason why Kami is revealing Shinji—the principles.
All people, in the hands of Kami, are born into this world to achieve true happiness.
Know this truth about life and strive to live by these principles.
There is nothing difficult.
Just learn the teachings of Kami, and look at your kokoro with the teachings.
Gradually and naturally, the movement of your kokoro will anchor; and you will become a person who will turn all encounters into your deep understanding.
Kami teaches us that a harmonious family, where there is always warm conversation and where the family member’s kokoro come together, is the foundation of happiness. People acquire character in their family environment. Therefore, try to live your life in the family you are currently living in, by discussing everything with your parents and siblings and supporting each other. By doing so, you will naturally be able to correct the relationships that create disharmony, and you will become a person who can deepen good relationships with everyone. You can complement each other, trust each other, and build a harmonious family with your husband-to-be.