（NS from Shizuoka Prefecture/30s/Female/Housewife）
My husband gave me a great sense of relief
I’ve been easily swayed by trends, information and my friends’ opinions.
As I got married and had a child, I began worrying about my child, constantly comparing to other children.
Every time I had anxious feelings, my husband showed understandings and gave me helpful advice to take a step forward. When our child refused to eat solid food, I got worried and frustrated. Then he told me, “It’s going to be all right. Our baby needs just a little more time. Let’s raise her slowly and calmly.” His words gave me a great sense of relief.
My husband’s presence and understandings meant so much to me. He made me want to learn the teachings of Kami together to have a stable mind like him.
What learning and practicing the teachings brought me
One day, I attended the classes for parents who are raising infants at Shinji Kyōkai.
I learned the principles that said,
“Children are by nature impatient; and they will not always behave well during times that are convenient for parents. The key to how family members can get along well with each other is for the father, mother, and children to live according to their individual roles.”
That was the moment I realized that I had been fixed on the idea of my own thoughts about child-rearing. I was so determined to raise my child in my own way.
I also learned the importance of having conversations between a husband and wife.
So, I tried to talk to my husband about daily events and my honest feelings. When I have concerns, I asked him for advice.
Gradually, I came to have more confidence. I let go of other’s opinions, and comparing my child to others.
The other day, there was a marathon at my child’s kindergarten. My daughter was running slower than others as she was not good at exercising.
In such situation, I used to feel embarrassment, wishing her to run faster.
However, when I saw her enjoy running with a sweet smile, I was moved to tears by the feelings of love that came from inside of me.
When She finally finished running. I hugged her and said, “Great job! I’m so proud of you.”
Even if one of my fellow mom friends says that she is taking her child to an exercise class to develop the child’s skills, I am not influenced by such opinions anymore.
From all my heart, I wish to be a mother who can recognize and bring out her strength.
I have gained an anchored kokoro and confidence through the learning and practicing of Kami’s teachings. I will keep sharing thoughts and feelings with my husband and bringing up our child with lots of love.