(NS from Fukuoka Prefecture/30s/Female/Housewife)
From the beginning of our marriage, we got along well. However, the timing where our kokoro did not become one was increased, and we were about to file divorce papers after my son was born. When I attended the benkyōkai at that time, I just thought about “It might just make me feel better if I get divorced. However, would it be happy for my son?”
When I Focused on My Husband…
Although I have been studying the teachings, I came to study again as if I start it from the beginning. Through the learning, I found the figure of my husband and I were facing back to back. Then, I decided I want to focus on him since I could realize our present situation. I thought Kami let my kokoro move to the life without any regret. On the other hand, our distance of kokoro could not shorten immediately. For me, however, my kokoro was different. I could change my mind that I want to understand and to become one with him without blaming for and getting angry. Therefore, I gradually came to understand what he feels about.
My husband watched my figure closer than anyone. And he also tried to understand what I feel about. To tell our own thoughts as we feel the other person’s feelings. We continued such conversation and one day, we felt the sympathy with each other that “Now, our thoughts became one!” I was so glad to hear he said that “It was happy for me.”
To Involve Our Son Together
Before we notice it, we could involve with our son together. My son who feels the surrounding really sensitive does his work on his own pace and his growth was really slow. He will go to the special class of the elementary school from this spring. I talked with my husband for many times about my son. The more we feel strong to make the best of as husband and wife, my persistence to compare with other children has gone. When I look back on my early childhood, he resembles me very well. Gradually, I came to feel this is who we are as a family.
Now, our only wish for our loving son is to live a happy life. The reason why I am so positive is that I am looking towards the same direction with my husband as we cooperate with each other.
My son is always loved by many at the kindergarten or the park. When I see him, I feel my son will grow up as he attains many love and will give them back in the future. Therefore, I feel we, as husband and wife need to show him the way of living to give back the love. Our family will walk every day from now on with smile as we are looking forward to my son’s future!
Heeding the Shinji to Understand the Reasons for the Joys Experienced
Shinji is the universal principle (truth), and can also be the guidance of life that foresees the future. Please feel the wonders of a life that flows exactly in a way the Shinji tells us when you live with the teachings of Kami.
Shinji
–A life without any regrets is the basis of “the family with harmony”—
To walk the path as you seek the family where the soul is at ease.
Naturally, the teachings are remained in each kokoro.
The teachings are the principles. All you could do is to keep in mind and practice it.
The more you practice, the conversation is increased and to become a family where support each other through their existence.
The family where make use of the teachings, the kokoro of each family member becomes one and wrong jittai will not bring about.