Since my mother passed away, I am living with my elder brother. I have a bad habit of having one-sided conversations. Therefore, I am disliked by my brother and those around me. I have difficulty in getting involved with people. (Male in his 40’s)
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Mutual support is the right way to get involved with people. Be careful not to do what lays a burden on others, not to blame them too much, or not to expect them to much. When you grasp this, your life will be filled with much meaning, purpose, and joy.
Each and every family member should learn the teachings and strive to live by the teachings so that the kokoro of the family comes together.
The family will gradually become alive with conversations, and it will become a home where the kokoro finds comfort and peace.
The human kokoro will be honed in a home where the family members think of and show consideration for one another, which will lead them to grow into people who live to give back.
When you learn the teachings of Kami, you will be able to sense others’ feelings.
Having a one-sided conversation won’t enable you to communicate well. As opposed to this, having a breathing space in your kokoro will allow you to see the others’ situations more clearly; that he would like to be watching TV now, or that he is enjoying this conversation with me though he is not talkative. When you talk with your brother wishing that his heart will become merry and bright, your conversations will always be enjoyable.
Practice this within your family at first, and then expand it to larger social settings. When you become good at sensing others’ kokoro, you will be liked and needed by people, and you will be able to live each day filled with happiness.