My husband is stubborn and never changes his ideas. He will be at home all day after he retires. When I think about facing him the whole day, I am already tired of it. (60’s female)
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A husband and wife is about partnership. You and your husband have established the relation you have now. And what you are experiencing today is the consequence of both involved in the relationship. Therefore, changes are needed on both sides. It is not an easy feat, but take it in as a great opportunity to make it better.
ーEstablish a family that lives by principle to attain a life without regretsー
Understand your role(position) and live with it at home.
Kokoro of the family will naturally converge and become one, and the family will have great conversation.
In order to live peacefully and enjoyably in the twilight years, it is necessary that a husband and wife get along together and live in harmony. You have been with your husband for long years, and know his personality very well: the strengths and weaknesses. Because you understand your husband’s personality well, you could wait for him to calm down, adjust to him, or switch your mind in a good way. A husband and wife harmonize in relation by understanding each other and living within his/her positions. This is how a husband and wife should be.
You will be able to naturally establish good and harmonious relation by learning and living by Kami’s teachings. Demanding others to change themselves does not make situations better. However, if you change, other person’s kokoro will change.
In order to live a life without regrets, understand that now is the great chance to make your life better; reach out more to understand your husband’s feelings and thoughts and make actions.