I am thinking about getting married to my girlfriend soon, but my parents suggest that it is better to wait until we have a stronger financial base. To increase my money faster, I’m thinking about investing my money. (Male, 20s)
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When considering marriage, of course, financial matters are important, but the most important thing is how the two of you feel. As husband and wife, are you both determined to support each other and walk through life together?
However, behind your parents’ words, they are giving you a suggestion out of their concern for their child. So, to put your feelings at ease, talk it over with your girlfriend and convey it to both of parents (yours and your girlfriend’s parents).
It is better not to proceed only with your feelings. Listen to both parents’ opinions and feelings and find a happy medium. This is because sharing your kokoro is the most important thing in building a family. If you try to cover up or overreach yourself, you will eventually find yourself suffering. It is important to adjust to your capacity.
Shinji
Marriage—the more you walk your life accumulating the encounters, each encounter will deepen, good encounters will come and form. What you should do now is cherish every encounter; live with a sense of gratitude in your kokoro. To make all encounters fulfilling and to return good things in your life, you must make the most of Kami’s teachings in your kokoro—the way you live.
Investment is essentially something that is done to support and encourage a business. If you are driven by greed, you may invite problems.
To support your family as a husband, you must work hard as a member of society. If you use your abilities generously and approach the workplace with a spirit of hōshi (giving back), you will be trusted by the company and become someone who is needed. This will not only naturally lead to an income but will also give you a sense of fulfillment.
To cherish your encounters—these words often revealed in Shinji mean to accept the other person’s feelings and interact with them sincerely so that they can feel at ease. If you do not forget to be grateful for the support of your family and those around you and deepen your bond as a couple, you will surely be able to live a life full of joy.