When I leveled a vacant lot I owned with asphalt, my neighbor yelled and complained at me, saying, “My field was ruined by construction drainage.” We are in trouble because the contractors are not doing anything but to explain that they greeted and explained to the neighbors prior to the work and carried out the work in a proper manner. (Female in her 60s)
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Not just this incident; but unexpected things happen in life. At such times, the important thing is to respond calmly, honestly, and in the right manner abiding by the path.
Even if it was unintentional, let’s objectively look at the facts, such as the state and extent of the damage, and instead of running away from complaints or leaving it up to the professionals, you should sincerely get involved and face it to some kind of resolution.
Shinji
What needs to be done now; make the teachings the sustain of your life, and strive to deepen the involvement.
Be at control of the movement of your kokoro that leads you off the path. But instead, move to cooperate and collaborate.
Naturally and gradually, the unmei of each other will come together and complement with each other creating an environment to live in harmony.
The first thing to do is come together as a family and discuss it with the people involved.
How you approach this situation is extremely important; If you are blaming or distrusting the other person deep down, you will never be able to achieve harmony. However, when someone criticizes you, it is easy to feel rebellious. Therefore, offer kigan so that you will not be overwhelmed by emotions and that you will be able to live according to Kami’s teachings. Naturally, your mind becomes stable and you have the space to be considerate of others.
If you can tell the owner of the field that you are thinking about the issue in their shoes, they will feel at ease and calm down. This will allow us to proceed with the discussion harmoniously in a direction that everyone can agree on.
When you use the teachings to interact with others in this way, the way you interact with people would become more filled with richness. Not only will you learn a way of life that allows you to overcome troubles, but you will also be able to keep disasters at bay in the first place.