My daughter who goes to an elementary school was ostracized on social media and became a truant. When I consulted with her homeroom teacher, the parents of my daughter’s friends who ostracized my daughter out of the group rushed to my house. “I was called to school, but my child was not bullying,” they said. My husband, who recorded the whole exchange, is ready and prepared to take it to court if they don’t admit it. (Female in her 30s)
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When people get carried away by their emotions, they tend to lose sight of what matters most. There are many cases where parents overreact and demand that the other person be punished, or even appeal to the government in some cases. However, even if you win the trial, it will not save the child’s kokoro. On the contrary, negative emotions such as hatred and resentment will only remain.
What parents are required to do is to nurture their children’s kokoro so that they can enjoy their youth and school life. It is to build a warm family environment where you can always be at peace.
Shinji
Be aware that the husband and wife’s conversation and involvement today have a big impact on the future of the child’s life.
The kokoro of husband and wife will come together as one in a family environment where the teachings exist.
There, the child’s kokoro will anchor; the child will be able to walk his/her life in one with his/her unmei.
It is the parents who protect the kokoro of their children, who are not yet independent, and under the age of 15. A child’s kokoro is fostered greatly influenced and impacted by his or her parents.
What is fundamentally necessary is a home environment in which the kokoro of each family member is at ease. To that end, couples should honestly communicate their feelings to each other and support each other so that their hearts are together. Then, the child will be able to talk to their parents about his/her thoughts with peace of mind.
The part that needs to be fixed here is to be conscious about communicating with love and thoughtfulness. Naturally, your child will grow up to be able to create good friendships. A family environment where the children can talk about anything is established, their kokoro will be anchored, and they will be able to live with strength.