I was shocked to know that our child is being left out from the circle of friends in junior high school. The teachers do not seem to deal with this problem properly, and cannot be relied on. (Female in her 50’s)
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What you should do as parents is for the husband and the wife to come together as one, talk to your child, listen to and accept his/her painful emotions. Just as you yourselves have experienced, so will your child have various relationship problems in his/her life to come. When he/she meets such troubles, what is important is that the parents embrace their child’s heart with a kind and generous kokoro, providing the child with a family environment where their hearts find peace and comfort. Even if they experience hardships on the outside of their home―when they can feel love of their family on the inside of their home―they will be able to have strong and positive hearts to do their best the next day. Then sooner or later, they will surely overcome their problems.
Shinji
In order to foster a person that is useful for the world(society), the husband and the wife need to create a family where each other’s kokoro(unmei) come together and complement each other’s thoughts.
The more the teachings are learned as a couple, and the places and the roles as the father and the mother are harmoniously intertwined and complement each other, the more the unmei of the child will be honed, greatly elevating the jittai of the child.
For the child to become happy, what is essential is the existence of the parents whose hearts are together. When you understand your places in your family and fulfil your roles as the husband and the wife―or the father and the mother―respectively, then the heart of your child will be anchored, enabling them to live lively.
As for your involvement with the teachers in charge or your child, ask for their advice instead of leaving everything to them. Ask them how your child is doing in school, and make sure what you should do in your home as parents. When a relationship of trust is built between the school and the family, the atmosphere among the pupils will improve for sure.