I live with my husband. We got into a quarrel about money issues. Our views and values have caused fights over money in the past. And right now, my husband won’t even talk to me. I know I am to be blamed for acting rude to him, but what should I do and how should I be involved with him from now on? (Female in her 50s)
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Views and ways of thinking are different among all of us. You have to understand that this applies to husband and wife.
Take this situation as an opportunity to build a stronger relationship where you both will respect each other’s feelings, and have a truthful and calm conversations.
Shinji
All human beings will age and their life will come to an end one day.
That is when the encounter with your family members become the support of your kokoro to live a life without feelings of regret.
Now is the time to make an environment where family members will visit Kyōkai and learn the teachings together.
The teachings will tie the kokoro of family members together; You will deeply understand the worth in the meaning to be in conversation and to support each other to live.
Learn the teachings of Kami together with your husband, and when you become more aware of how things should be, your kokoro and your husband’s kokoro will come together naturally. ‘How thing should be’—is for example, a mindset to make a purchase when you have the money for it, but don’t make a purchase if you don’t have the money.
If you impose your opinion or rights, or completely ignore other people’s opinions, people will work against you. Listen to what your husband has to say, try to understand his feelings, and the effort to come up with a decision through compromise is one way of how things should be.
The money issue that arose is just one of the problems that came as a result of you and your husband’s state of not being in harmony. Husband and wife should always care for each other, and support each other—that’s how it should be. Have the teachings of Kami to sustain your life, and try to talk to each other about anything in your daily lives. Hence you will experience the joy of having a family where each other’s feelings are well understood, and to be able to have a harmonious family environment.