Question
I was diagnosed with an early stage of gastric cancer. I prefer the municipal hospital I go because it is near from home and would make me feel more comfortable for post-surgery checkups. However, my husband and children recommend a bigger university hospital. My family doctor is always kind and considerate about me. He says he can write a letter of referral to the university hospital if I wish. I cannot decide which hospital I should go.(Female 70’s)
A
It is great and must be wonderful to have both your doctor and family that think and care about your health. Realize that the problem here is not about which hospital to choose, but that the kokoro of your family members are not merged because of the lack of conversation.
Know your role and position, seek to create a family, where the kokoro of harmony blossoms, and relate with your family members.
As the kokoro becomes one with your family’s, you will experience the true health.
First, you need to see what you want, and then discuss with your family well about surgery, post operation clinic visits, and the life after the surgery. Talk about pros and cons and what you are worried and questioning about. Look carefully your position and do what you need to do with it. Then, your kokoro will naturally be one with your family. Your thought will be understood by them and you will see what they are wishing.
Discuss well and make a conclusion with your family, and trust your family doctor who is meant to meet you and consult well. You will see which way feels more comfortable for you. In addition, you will gain support from your family and be able to receive treatment with a sense of security.