(Female 70’s)
Question
My husband has been hospitalized due to a serious illness. After the coronavirus outbreak, visitor restrictions at the hospital have begun to become stricter due to the measures against it; I feel loneliness not being able to see him and feel insecure about staying at home alone. My daughter visits me often, but I am stricken with loneliness.
A
When you face with problems, the movement of your kokoro: how you accept and how you think, is different depending on each person’s personalities. The issue rooted here is not about husband’s hospitalization nor the situation staying home alone, but your kokoro that cannot accept the here and now.
Era and environment does not create suffering, nor prevent and deprive the joy of “living.”
Realize that the factor is the state of our kokoro, which is consumed by our jittai
As you are feeling lonely staying at home alone, your husband might also be feeling the same. Because you are not walking your life by yourself, but with your husband, you should care and consider about him and always feel his presence at heart. Kigan and speak your thoughts honestly to Kami. It will draw out your honesty and a space in your mind to care about your husband. When care and consideration are expressed, harmony in the family is kept and each person begins to feel at ease. It is important not to be overwhelmed by this flow of change, but to live your life with a kokoro at peace and with calmness.
In addition, it is important to have awareness of the fact that you are receiving love from your daughter and be sincerely grateful that she tries to support you and your husband. When you realize how special it is to have such caring daughter, the feeling of security that “I am not alone” would emerge. That will bring the kokoro of family come together and ease your loneliness, and you will be able to strongly support your husband as a wife despite not being able to see each other often.