Question
I tend to be peevish. I get into grumbling my complaints to people and spoiling the mood. I want to change my personality trait.
(Female 40’s)
A
When you are not confident about yourself, your kokoro will become unstable and waver. The kokoro will cause you to see everything in a negative fashion. Therefore, you need to have confidence. The confidence springs from a belief in your inner strengths and the desire to make the most of them for others. Every human being has an unmei, inner strength. If you use your unmei with the kokoro to give back within your present environment, you will experience the joy of being alive and gain confidence. In order to surface and develop the inner strength, your kokoro must be stable.
Realize that human beings who live with a kokoro cannot anchor their kokoro without deepening the ties with people and things.
Because the kokoro is not anchored, they live a life against the correct path and hurt their kokoro of one another.
Understand your place in the environment around you, and live a life by deepening the gratitude.
As you follow the right path, you will be healthy both in mind and body, and your life will be filled with many joys.
When our ties to people and things grow, our kokoro anchors. The closest tie you have is your family. It is important to correctly be aware about your role and place in your family, and deepen the ties by expressing your thoughts with a sincere and honest kokoro. This will anchor your kokoro. The anchored kokoro makes you see the world positively and calmly; you will have a space in your heart so that you are capable to care and be considerate for others. This will deepen your ties with people and things, and create a good environment. This experience will bring you confidence and the joy of being alive.