Question
I started living with my boyfriend recently. We plan to get married, but we are constantly arguing with each other. I wonder if we are right together? Should I go on with this relationship?
(Female 20’s)
A
Marriage is a complete different story from living together. Marriage is about creating a family. If it be described as a tree, the husband becomes the root of the tree. And the root has to be strong and well rooted and grounded to support the trunk, which is the wife. Without the strong root and the trunk, there will be no fruits or flowers that bloom from that tree. What’s important is the togetherness—empathy between the husband and wife is needed.
The key to attracting good meetings is to live with a loving heart.
Strive to be a person who seeks for a loving family.
You will find mutuality—empathizing characteristics among all the people you meet.
In a relationship, the difficulty we find are often the differences in ways of thinking among the two people. This is true in any kind of relationships—however, this becomes a big hurdle when it comes to creating a family. We often suffer two different values colliding with each other. But when these differences surface, would you take it as a hurdle? Or would you take it as an opportunity to get to know better about your partner and deepen your understandings of each other?
The choice is up to the both of you. But as you live, it is always important to make the effort and stay respectful and caring about the other person at all times. Because creating a family is about love and patience. We suggest you take these into consideration and think about your values and what you want in your marriage. Once you clear that out in your mind, you will find your answer.