(TY from Shizuoka Prefecture/Female/70s/Housewife)
I was unhappy about my husband’s stubbornness, and I had always been frustrated, and blamed him for being that way. However, I wanted to change the situation, so I attended a class at the church every month and learned the teachings.
Then one day, I realized that I kept blaming him instead, but I may be the one who was more stubborn than my husband. Since then, I spent each day asking Kami for a more accepting and a flexible heart.
After a while, surprisingly my frustration disappeared, and I realized “I would leave regrets in my life if I keep going on like this. I really want to live by the teachings of Kami.” Then, I tried and made the effort to initiate active involvements and conversation with my husband.
My husband naturally and gradually became nicer and helped me with the housework, and our conversations increased. I had always blamed my husband, but now I understand how important it is to change myself, and it is all up to my own perception to create harmony in any circumstances.